Thanks for Giving

my teenage daughter came home for thanksgiving break from college. she’s been here for five days so far. it’s been quite an experience. i need to remember that she has Aspergers Syndrome and Attention Deficit Disorder and her thought process and behavior are directed, in part, by them. after three short months, i’ve become accustomed to having the house to myself. i don’t think i’ve had a full nights sleep since she arrived – lots of friends to see and spend the night. lights on, tv blaring, laughter and running at 3am. i’m comforted that she has real friendships and she’s loved by many. yet i’ve been the recipient of some old behavior that i didn’t expect. aggression, denial, apathy. i have an appointment tomorrow with an auto body repair shop to get a quote for a front end collision she was involved in last night. i’m really trying to stay in the present moment and remain in loving kindness. there are lessons everywhere and i thank her for giving me these gifts:

  • the challenge to stay present
  • understanding how agitation and uneasiness creates an intensely felt gut reaction leading to diarrhea (tmi?)
  • the disruption of solitude, allowing the blissful bubble to be burst
  • loving the person more than the material possession
  • accepting the state of being only partially informed
  • not being in control
  • releasing judgment and cultivating loving kindness
  • having her in my life to help me on my spiritual journey
  • dealing with reality, right here, right now
  • being able to see the humor in everything

i’ve decided what i’m going to get her for Christmas and this is going to be tricky, but if anyone knows where i can get some patience, common sense and depth perception, i’m all ears. hope your thanks – giving was as eye opening as mine. remember to see the joy and humor in all things.

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About tari brand

Hi everyone! I'm so glad you're here. I hope you move closer to what your spiritual truth is in this place we call earth from reading my journal. I've been investigating for over 30 years why we're here, in this moment, and have found countless ways to help others relax and enjoy the ride. Hope you'll join me!
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3 Responses to Thanks for Giving

  1. I understand…similar challenges here, too. ..and the Christmas presents? ….time and experience will provide those, but I’ve found it difficult to stand there, watching and waiting. Our experience is it happens. We’re about 5 years out ahead of you and the maturation is happening, but really sped up at….21

  2. Andrea says:

    Boy can I relate to that….

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