releasing expectations. i didn’t think i had many, but when i was asked to write them down regarding a loved one, i discovered the opposite. and i came to understand that, even if they’re positive expectations and hopes for their well-being, when they are not realized, it’s always disappointing. we also may become resentful that they haven’t seen the light.
for instance, expecting your partner to wake up one day, fully enlightened, because they see how happy you are and it’s rubbed off on them. or waiting to hear them finally admit that, yes, they are going to actively pursue a healthy lifestyle. or becoming exactly who you want them to be because the glow form their spiritual center would be blinding! wow, do i ever have expectations!
it helped tremendously to write out what was in my mind but didn’t want to admit. now, what to do about them? accept that expectations are ego based. i want this or i want that or why can’t it all be the way i want it. and ego is not who i am. ego is superficial and external. i am a spiritual being having a human experience, as deepak chopra would say. my essence, that core of light, just as my partners essence, is spiritual. i am intertwined with his as he with mine. and we are connected universally to a greater spirit.
to be aware of this is to create presence, or stillness within. conflict begins to subside. to see this is to truly see the other. and to truly see the other is to see yourself. the love that i am expands outward to this spiritual being and the next and the next and the next. to create stillness and love opens us to the spaciousness of being.
spaciousness allows each one of us to be accepted as we are, in total, without desire for change or expect other than what is. acceptance of being right here, right now, as ram dass would say. i am spacious with my loved one, accepting and allowing, not reigning in or resisting. and, instead of having or seeking moments of awareness and spaciousness, spiritual living is living in the space always. open and accepting to what is.
this life is a classroom and i’m so grateful for all it’s lessons. release expectations and live in the moment with spaciousness and love. have a beautiful spring!