because of our past experiences, we shape reactions and assumptions accordingly. in my relationships with men, i bring assumptions along with me based on who and what my father was to me growing up. this has included believing that most men are negatively minded and lacking empathy and the ability to love unconditionally. and our experiences with others mirror our shortcomings, our “missing or hidden” issues that hold us back from living life.
this is how my world of love relationships have been and why they’ve all ended. with the exception of my marriage today.
i’ve finally been able to see, little by little, how my perceptions create blockages in communication with my beloved. with each opening, i gain insights into the past that become instrumental for positive growth in the present and future. beliefs from childhood continually surface and we must take the time to understand, accept and release or they will resurface again and again.
and the person who helps me see those blockages is the one who’s the closest. he shows me over and over, each day, until i can finally see it for myself. thanks, honey.